Do not keep it to yourself!
If you are being stalked, it is first and foremost important that you do not keep it to yourself, but share it with people in your surroundings and rely on our counselling service.
Talk to your closest family and friends about your situation and thoughts. When you start to tell them about your experiences, you will probably realise that you know some people who are or have been in a similar situation as yours.
You are not alone! What is happening to you is not something you are fabricating, and you are not going crazy. Listen to yourself, and trust your instincts.
You are always welcome to call our counsellors. We know what you are going through, and we want to help.
Tell everybody with whom you are in contact about your situation. It is important that they know not to pass on any information about you and to inform you of any communication from your stalker. If you have a photo of your stalker, it is a good idea to show it.
Note that if you have children, it is a good idea to tell the institution about your situation. Obviously, you also have to tell your child’s institutions NEVER to let the stalker pick up your child, no matter what stories they might hear. It can be useful information to the bank as well. They need to know that they are not to pass on any information about you.
Contact the police, and tell them about your experiences, but you need to collect evidence first:
- Save all evidence. Make a list with date and time of all communication: Text messages, emails, letters, presents, etc. You can use a log sheet.
- Get help collecting the evidence. Your friends will be glad to be able to help you.
- Write down all physical and concrete approaches including those for which you do not have any specific documentation. List any witnesses.
- See if your mobile phone has a recording feature (most new models do), and record any calls and threats over the phone.
- If necessary, take photos of footprints or anything else indicating that your stalker has been by your home.
- Contact Danish Stalking Centre’s counselling service. The counsellors support and help you to size up the situation, and they guide you in how to manage your contact with the police. Furthermore, the counsellors are trained to help you see your options available for action.
- If you feel that your life is in danger, call the police immediately.
If you need a safe place to stay, contact:
- The nearest police station
- A shelter
- Family or friends
If you need help finding the nearest shelter, you can call us.